Hmmm do I have a problem???

I have decided Ihave a problem ... will I do anything about it I ask myself?  This morning in my wisdom I decided to clean my kitchen from top to bottom even the dogs beds got hosed out and cleaned and I sort of changed round a few things and that was on top of doing other stuff. The trouble is I dont know when to stop.  A good friend of mine had words with me this morning  and said I need to limit myself but the trouble is I find it very dificult to do that.  I have always beenused to being on the go but for the past 5 years with this damn heart issue I have had to limit things that I do otherwise I get tired, dizzy and sick but when I feel ok I tend to go overboard and then end up feeling tired, sick and dizzzy hahaha.  The problem is I look for any imperfections in the house, any dogs hairs dog smells or general mess and I have to do something about it.  I was even sat on the loo today when I saw dogs hairs on the floor and as there was a brush in there ready for me to clean the floor anyway I actually started cleaning whilst I was sat on the toilet ffs.  I really have to stop it.  I am the same with my hair and the way I look, my hair has to be in a certain way yet no one ever notices any difference, and its so damn short anyway, even my son said to me this morning "where are you going mum" I said "nowhere" and he said "well why have you got makeup on and smellies on and washed your hair?"  And, to be honest Ihave no idea ... what is the matter with me?  I could have saved time this morning by just getting up having a quick shower or better today I would have been better showering or bathing this evening after I had done what I needed to do. Am I so scared of being seen as not "perfect" to the outside world?  Im definitely not perfect, far from it but somehow I seem to want to show this illusion.  The strangest thing is that I love being in cozy messy houses but somehow I dont like it in my own.  I like cozy and a bit of sort of mess but not much lol, I much prefer to see everything put away and clean and tidy, I even dont sit in my front room much, well hardly ever but I like looking at it.  I was always pretty neat and tidy but I seem to be getting worse, nowhere have I have ever lived somewhere where I dont sit in my front room and where I seem to be constantly obsessing about how things are . I should be living the best I can every day because one day for certain my heart will be giving me bigger problems than it is at the moment, and I shouldnt be concentrating on so much on all the crap I do. Thanks L for giving me the kick up the ass the morning, you deffo said it how it is lol.